Every situation that presents itself to us is a “meant to be situation”…each situation that presents itself is for our growth… Now not necessarily the actual situation but the how we handle it, how we look upon it and our stages of going through the process.
Right now there is all kinds of things coming up for us, to finally be handled, accepted, connected to, let go of, forgiven…both in forgiving ourselves and in forgiving the other person or persons involved in our situation… and then our letting go of it all. This is a sign of the times.
When we go through things that are not pleasant or possibly that are pleasant but they alter or we discover something about our own vulnerability, or our own naivety, how we feel from the situation and how we took part in it… about wearing anger, or hurt, or guilt it can be a very large journey for us to reckon with, especially if we have ever been or worn the label of victim…The only one that can make us a victim is ourselves. That is a choice…to heal or to remain locked in the mire. When we choose to blame another we are giving our power away, and becoming stuck, we are choosing not to take responsibility…we feel we have no choice…
In every situation…we have choices in how we handle things check out the emotions…see what label you are attaching to yourself…. Are you choosing to heal and move forward… or are you wanting to be in the Blame game… are you choosing to give your power away by blaming, by being angry and feeling guilty…or even feel sad and hurt.
I feel… There are NO Mistakes…or Everything Happens for a Reason… Or Everything is in Divine order… so in that I must find my place… If there are no mistakes, then there is no reason for me to feel or hold on to guilt or anger directed at myself for participating. Everything happens for a reason…every relationship has lessons…okay so what transpired in the given situation…what experiences did I have or what is it that became my awareness during this situation… what took place that I could possibly be grateful for? Was there an emotion? An experience?... a scene a word… if I am able to find anything that is positive I say thank you… now if I, upon reflection experienced anything that was not so positive then let me step up and say thank you for in those things I will find a truth, a lesson, and in that I am growing and becoming aware.
I then want to look at the other person in my situation and feel them, what motivated their participation in my situation… where are they coming from what is the motivation I become aware of when I sit and feel them… was it survival? Was it honest? Is it because of a huge need…Was it pure…was it meant to hurt? Or was it meant as an experience…or was there no real reason for it…. I would probably not know where they are at, but I can feel them… and therefore I feel the imperfection or the perfection in their intent… Therefore can I forgive them? Can I still send Love… can I let go of anger or judgement. Am I able to forgive and to let go of anything that is no longer serving my highest good?
Yes I believe I AM (we are) very capable of that… I AM (we are) able to reclaim any or all of my (our) power that I (we) gave away during this situation…and become stronger, more capable, more loving, and more forgiving… Yes I AM (we are) very capable of that. Can I choose a label for this situation…I most certainly can… it is….. “YES … I AM”
Note: This does not have to involve another person it can be about an Illness or situation…feel, resonate with the situation and thank it for all that it has provided for you…forgive and let go….and then even more so than normal become more fully….“LOVE”.
Judy M. Watts -
I Love YOU